Being in a relationship is hard work, but what’s harder is ending one. There’s confusion, anxiety, and even pressure from family and friends.. We’ve all been there, and we know how it usually ends… Messy. Very,very messy.
What make’s it so hard is not knowing if your over reacting, or if your legitimately in a relationship that is ‘one way’. Funny thing is, the woman is almost always giving signals that scream to be noticed. When she want’s you to break up with her, she’s real good at showing it. You just don’t notice.
Do yourself a favor, and stop prolonging the inevitable. Here’s three easy to tell signs that it just IS NOT working:
Lies, Lies, lies…
Guy’s, I’m going to be very straight forward… If she’s lying to you then you need to drop her. Right now. That simple.
Trust, and loyalty are two of the most important aspects of a relationship. If you can’t trust her, and you have good reason not too, then you are doing yourself a GREAT disservice by keeping her around. Your prolonging your misery, it doesn’t have to be this way. Grow a pair, and do what’s been needing to be done for a long time…
Take action: Next time you catch her in a lie, and she tries to say that it was an accident, it’s not as bad as it looks, and that she’s “getting better”, blah blah blah. Wait for her to say sorry, and then agree, and say: “Yea… Sorry… But this has to end.. Look it’s been great, we’ve had some _______ times together, but I’m ready to move on.”
NOTE: Don’t substitute the blank space for “fairy“. My friend evidently took the space to mean he could insert anything he wanted and it would work… Needless to say, it just killed the whole mood. Stick with something like: Great, wonderful, amazing, and if your really a heartless bastard that doesn’t care he’s breaking up with his girlfriend you could say ‘fantastic’ in a really mean way.
If she’s constantly acting annoyed, standoffish, or disinterested towards you.. That should be a glowing neon sign saying: “Break up with me!”. It’s painfully obvious; if someone doesn’t want to be around you, then leave em’ alone! What kill’s me is how many men miss it, and think they can “woo” her back. This usually results in a very sick feeling in the pit of her stomach, and on rare occasions – vomiting…
Soo.. Things to watch for:
Long delay’s in text messages. That’s a doozie. If she’s taking two hours between responses, then she’s trying to get your attention. Watch for that.
Short responses. When she responds with “yes”, “no” or even worse…. “The Nod”, (yea we all know that feeble, insulting excuse of a response) then she’s not happy. Obviously
Doesn’t want to hang out as much. Further explanation needed? I think not.
Affection(or lack there of)…
Big one right here, but if misinterpreted, could be deadly. When there is a lack of affection for an extended period of time, you should be aware that something BIG is wrong.
However, just because she isn’t showing you a lot of affection all the time doesn’t necessarily mean she wants the relationship to be over, but if it’s mixed with a few of the above mentioned others, then yea… She probably doesn’t want to be in your life anymore. So be the one to break up with her… Even if you don’t want to.
If you really want her back, check in Monday to learn the “7 Simple Steps To Get Her Back”.
Or come back later for “Don’t Play Her Game’s”, and “Doing It Right The First Time”…
Tristen R. Royal